{"id":10938,"date":"2019-03-19T09:54:44","date_gmt":"2019-03-19T04:24:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/?p=10938"},"modified":"2019-03-19T09:54:52","modified_gmt":"2019-03-19T04:24:52","slug":"moving-with-your-significant-other-these-tips-will-help-you-survive-the-process","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/moving-with-your-significant-other-these-tips-will-help-you-survive-the-process\/","title":{"rendered":"Moving with your significant other? These tips will help you survive the process"},"content":{"rendered":"

It may seem like a job where you simply need to throw all your stuff into one place, but it\u2019s far more than that. First, you need to find and agree on that place, then there\u2019s a painful process of sorting your possessions in which you\u2019ll probably have to say goodbye to some of them, somewhere between there\u2019ll be money talks… and all these things have room for conflict. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re <\/span>ready for this leap<\/span><\/a>, we\u2019ll point out some important matters in this process and provide you with tips that will help you survive it with your affection for each other intact.  <\/span><\/p>\n

This is The Place<\/b><\/h2>\n

The first question is where to move – stay in your place, move into theirs, or find the new one together? One of your places might seem like a better choice space-wise, but you should also consider other factors that are must-haves for both – safety, shopping, restaurants, parks, accommodation for pets, commute to work, etc. Even if everything adds up, sometimes it\u2019s not all about the actual apartment – one of you (or both) might need the shared sense of ownership that will provide the new chapter in your relationship. Maybe you\u2019ll want to start from the beginning together and then finding the new place is the best option. Not only you\u2019ll have more freedom choosing the square footage that can accommodate all your stuff, but you\u2019ll also be able to create a uniform interior design with the look and feel you both agree on.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Leaving it Behind<\/b><\/h2>\n

There\u2019s a chance that you have a duplicate of things in your apartments such as coffee tables, meaning you won\u2019t be needing one of them.  There will be big stuff such as sofas or dressers that simply won\u2019t fit in the new apartment. So the first step is to take the inventory of both apartments and then decide what you\u2019ll gonna <\/span>toss, sell, donate, or keep<\/span><\/a>. After you measure all that\u2019s left you\u2019ll have a clear idea of how much square footage you\u2019ll need. It\u2019s mandatory to make this decision together. Some might see this pre-move purge as an opportunity to get rid of seemingly useless or ugly stuff their partner\u2019s been holding onto. But we’re simply attached to some things. If your partner has been collecting things for years you need to understand it\u2019s probably hard for them to let go, no matter how weird that collection seems to you. It\u2019 all about open communication and gentle suggestions, and knowing you won\u2019t always be able to agree on what\u2019s worth keeping. <\/span><\/p>\n

Checklist for Habits<\/b><\/h2>\n

When we make a checklist, we always consider only the important stuff. But our lives are mostly driven by habits we\u2019re unconscious of and realizing you\u2019re unable to perform them in your new apartment can prove to be quite stressful. That\u2019s why all the things we <\/span>don\u2019t think about<\/span><\/i> should also end up on paper. It would be tricky to forget to make spare keys, but forgetting the <\/span>tv aerial installation<\/span><\/a> might be even worse. Instead of fighting over the remote, you\u2019ll fight about which one of you was stupid enough to forget about that. Of course, our habits being unconscious it\u2019s hard to remember them, but by now you probably know each other\u2019s routines well enough – why not try to make this checklist for one another? It may even come out as a pleasant surprise.  <\/span><\/p>\n

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Overcoming Money Talks<\/b><\/h2>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been sharing costs with a roommate, but sharing the responsibility for basic necessities with your partner who\u2019s become a full-time housemate is quite different. Since you\u2019re signing legal documents together, it\u2019s normal that you want to know what you\u2019ve tied yourself to and what obligations you have. Maybe your partner has some debt or loses his job and you\u2019re gonna be solely responsible for the whole rent and not just your part since you\u2019ve both signed the <\/span>rental agreement<\/span><\/a>. That\u2019s why it\u2019s important to set aside time in order to lay out your complete financial picture – talk with your partner about every financial obligation you both have: assets such as investments and savings, income, student loans, credit score, and any credit card debt. For some, these money talks may feel like a loss of control over their individual finances and privacy, so understanding communication is crucial if you want to avoid creating tension. You need to be aware that a fair arrangement is not always an equal one, especially if you make unequal salaries. There are ways each of you can pay the fair share of living expenses – one may take care of the rent while the other will pay for groceries and utilities, or you can share the expenses according to the percentage of your salaries. <\/span><\/p>\n

Following these tips doesn\u2019t mean there won\u2019t be some minor conflicts between the two of you, but it\u2019s important to know that arguments are not the end and to keep the communication open. Just remember who you\u2019re talking to – your significant other.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It may seem like a job where you simply need to throw all your stuff into one place, but it\u2019s far more than that. First, you need to find and agree on that place, then there\u2019s a painful process of sorting your possessions in which you\u2019ll probably have to say goodbye to some of them, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4570,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[1344,3189,3188],"class_list":["post-10938","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-lifestyle","tag-lifestyle-tips","tag-moving-in"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10938","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4570"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10938"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10938\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10938"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10938"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/golocalclassified.com\/article\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10938"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}